At one point in our meeting today we worked out that it is better to let people talk rather than to terminate their contribution. We worked out that if someone had something to say they needed to be heard, often because it was important to them to say what they had to say or they would feel a level of frustration which we, as a group, could resolve just by letting them talk. That was an important step because we had been talking to a time limit in order to try and keep the meeting moving and to try and allow everyone to have a say at any given time. Jeffer London in his video explains clearly why it is important to let people talk and , in fact , to encourage meetings that run along those lines. It is about enjoying the meeting, taking pleasure in being with others and then allowing a flow of communication. Isn’t that the social capability? That’s what I am preparing to embark upon with my year 8s so the meeting has given me some good direction. In the rules of effective meetings, which is well worth reading , discussions are encouraged for the following reasons:
1. People feel good that they are consulted. This has a positive psychological effect on compliance. The implementation of the action is generally smoother if people have been consulted and informed.
2. People feel that they have at least expressed their views.
3. Sometimes it helps people to let off steam or pent-up frustration which adversely affects performance if not released.
4. Increases employee motivation as they feel that they are part of important decisions.
5. Sometimes excellent ideas are thrown up because of the diversity of thoughts and experiences of the participants.
6. The decision maker is better informed of the repercussions. Not only can this help in a more informed decision, it can also aid in a better planned implementation.
7. A meeting promotes interaction of people and keeps people informed.
Talking motivates people. The social capabilities are about learning to communicate effectively, contributing to social groups, understanding relationships, appreciating the perspectives of others , learning to collaborate and making decisions based on negotiation. Our decision on letting people talk has far reaching consequences for this social capability and as such provides a good stepping stone into the social capability.